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Sunday, January 21, 2018

Overcoming Fear

Dear Fellow Travelers,

Some of the wisest words that have ever been spoken are these:


So many of us were either raised by parents who had been through the Great Depression, or who had experienced the traumas of the second world war; maybe both. There were hard times all over the world and it has left its mark on us. From a sense of duty and love, our parents prepared us for adversity. The result is that many of us grew up with a very clear idea of what could go wrong in nearly every situation.

The goal was to make us cautious and forearmed. What they forgot to remind us, is that we had intellect and intuition and a Loving Spiritual Presence that was there for us to call upon, so we could probably get through most things that seemed like adversity. In other words; we learned to fear without knowing that we had the power to triumph over whatever challenges life put in our path.

All you have to do is to watch a news program or listen to the stories that friends and family are going through to know that challenges are all around us. There are two ways to confront those challenges. One way is by tackling them on the outer.

During the Vietnam war days, I was in college. My friends were being drafted to fight. Some went to Canada, some went into ROTC so that they could serve as an officer, and some just went to war. Many of us went to protests and rallies where we put our energy into changing things on the outer.

Another way to confront the challenges is on the inner. Prayer is one way to do that. Sending out a strong energy from your heart saying “No ! I do not allow this in my world.” Sending prayers to heaven saying "God, I trust that you will fill the world with your energy of peace and calm the storms of adversity.” This is most effective when you truly believe that your energy can combine with the Divine and bring things into balance.

Many spiritual communities take a vow of silence. They consider their work on the inner to be so important that they do not even speak. They hold the balance for the Light, every waking moment.

Most of us will do both. Just remember that each form is important, and no one way is better than the other. It is true that all changes start with energy, but it is the outer drawing attention to the problem that fuels those who use the inner way. So be gentle with yourself if you find that life’s obligations, or health conditions, or mobility make it difficult or impossible for you to join those who protest. You can do just as much good by taking a moment as you watch the evening news, or see need in your fellow man. Pray and take that Light that you are and stand against the darkness and say ‘NOT IN MY WORLD!”.

Fear is a subtle cancer that invades our hearts. It starts by making us feel righteous about issues and spreads by inclining us to feel critical; or even hateful toward anyone who holds a different awareness. This consciousness will never bring Peace to the world. It serves only to keep us separate. If someone seems really different, it may be helpful to try to understand why. There is a Native American saying “Never judge another, until you have walked a mile in his moccasins.”

We are taught by the media who we should fear. I remember when we were taught to fear Asians because Japan had attacked Pearl Harbor. Then it was spies, they were the bad guys. McCarthy nearly closed down Hollywood with the fear of communists. Anyone who was liberal was thought to be a communist sympathizer. Drug dealers were next, until states began selling drugs to make taxes, so now it's terrorists.

The terrorists used to be all Arabs, but that began to get out of hand and people were bombing mosques, so now they are Russians ( back to communists again?) nope more creative, the Russian Mafia. All you need to do is watch police dramas and you will learn who we are supposed to fear now.

Its time for us to stop judging others by their nationality or religion or political persuasion. We all want a good life for our children and to live in peace and harmony with each other. Any beliefs or behavior that take us away from those goals should be re-thought.

With much love and light as always



If you would like further insight into what the future will bring to you, or help in manifesting your intentions, I am always here to support you in your journey. You can contact me by phone at 828-252-7573, but if you would like to book a 30 or 60 minute session, then please use my website. I now have a new convenient system where you will find a calendar, which shows my available time slots. You can also contact me at if you prefer to have an email consultation.

You may also find my book, ‘Find the Force, Be the Light’ helpful in guiding you through these times of transition and harnessing the power of prayer to manifest changes in your life.

This is available in both hardcover and e-book versions on Amazon Click Here to go straight to Amazon. The e-book is also available for purchase through Barnes and Noble, Apple iBooks and Kobo plus many other popular e-book outlets.

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Tuesday, January 16, 2018


Dear Fellow Travelers,

What seems to be up for many of you at this time, is the dynamics in relationships. I’m not talking just about romantic relationships, but also those with parents and children, with friends, or maybe an employer or an employee. Anyone with whom we have a regular exchange of energy, may be my teacher or my student and sometimes both. Nowhere else do we have such an opportunity for growth and empowerment as we do in relationships.

Many of us give up our power in relationships. There are lots of ways that we can do this. One of the easiest is :


We expect those around us to know what we want or need. This happens a lot in close relationships, but it can happen with co-workers as well. I was a single mother and I used to believe that my children should see what needed to be done around the house. I thought if they loved me, they would notice what needed to be done and do it; so I wouldn’t have to. I began to equate their performance with how much they loved and appreciated me. I’ll never forget when my sensible Joanna said “Mom, why don’t you just tell us what you need?”


If we want someone to do something for us, we feel they should want to do that task with a cheerful heart … if they love us. Here is an example. “Will you stop at the grocery store on your way home and pick up a few things?” The one we love does pick up things, but not without grumbling about rush hour traffic and how much they hate going to the grocery store. They do the task, but we start to feel unloved because we do that task all the time and never grumble … even though we may feel like it. This particular task can escalate if the person we ask forgets one of the items. It often boils down to – ‘if you loved and appreciated me, you would have remembered and done it cheerfully’.


We are looking for a certain and often specific response from the other person. We believe that this response will determine our level of happiness. Talk about a way to give up your power! Unfortunately, when we chose this response, we often chose someone who is incapable of giving us the response that we seek. Why isn’t my partner more romantic, especially when I feel romantic? Where are the little surprises?

This is such a complex subject which we all struggle with, to one degree or another. There has been much written about it, and it’s something which I have been considering writing about myself. So much of my work is taken up with providing guidance, where I see that so many situations are unique, and yet have a common underlying premise at one and the same time. In this respect, I would like to put my wisdom and experience into something which would be available wherever there might be a need to have something close at hand. My many years of counselling have really opened my eyes to so many things. In my own circumstances, I have learned how to recognize when others were saying ‘I love you’ in their own way, and I have also learned to recognize what they needed from me. This, in part, is why I am able to help my clients so effectively.


This can be done in all relationships and it is the one thing that undermines the flow of love energy more than any other. If you are asking yourself ‘why you don’t have love in your life’, you might want to check and see if there is any score keeping going on. I have clients who can tell me every wonderful thing that they have done for everyone, and whether or not that person ever responded in a similar manner. And, if they were ever treated in a negative way by anyone … they can give me chapter and verse on this subject.

My question to them invariably is – ‘How does this help?’ All it does is reinforce your belief that you are not loved.

I’m not talking about mean people here. I’m talking about really nice people who have had some difficult times in life and have become vigilant in their dealings with another or others, and often have come to anticipate the worst; even before it happens.

I believe that the latest statistics are that seventy six percent of us have come out of families with some kind of disfunction. The rest are very lucky, but seventy six percent is a lot! So, it’s not surprising that many have had things to overcome in their lives.

Some of you grew up where love was based on performance, and what you did was never quite enough. So, you don’t see how wonderful you are, just because you are you. You may have missed out on Mr. Rogers saying, “There is only one of you and you are the best you that you can be. I like you just the way you are.”

Love draws love. Practice loving unconditionally, no matter what the response is. As you become the embodiment of love, love will return to you in more ways than you can possibly count. I would not tell you anything that I have not experienced myself as the truth. I’m very lucky. I have opportunities every day to give love to my clients. I may not hear from them from session to session, even though some of them have been clients for over twenty years.

I love my profession. It gives me the opportunity to express healing love. But more important, to help you all to be gentle with yourself. Because each of you is unique, and each of you try very hard to do the best thing.

I have been speaking with clients since I was twenty two, and I will be seventy five next April. In all of that time, I have never met anyone who was truly a bad person. The best part of my work is to love you through the rough times, and to facilitate you to see yourself as I see you.

You are truly unique beings and there is only one person in this world who has grown up with your experience and who has your talents. You are your gift to this world. What you do with that gift blesses all of us. Like Fred Rogers, I love you just the way you are, and the love that I have experienced in return from the Universe has been mind blowing. I do not teach what I have not experienced personally. If you can learn to love without keeping score, miracles will happen.

If you feel that you could use some help in dealing with any kind of issues that may be coming up for you then please get in touch. If I can help you on your spiritual journey in any way, I am available to you in phone consults 30 or 60 min on 828-252-7573. Or if you prefer you can contact me by email at

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With much love and light as always


You may also find my book, ‘Find the Force, Be the Light’ helpful in guiding you through these times of transition and harnessing the power of prayer to manifest changes in your life.

This is available in both hardcover and e-book versions on Amazon Click Here to go straight to Amazon. The e-book is also available for purchase through Barnes and Noble, Apple iBooks and Kobo plus many other popular e-book outlets.

Please be sure to check out my newly updated website where my book is listed.

Monday, January 8, 2018

From The Age of Pisces to the Age of Aquarius

Greetings Fellow Travelers

The other night, I received a call from my good friend Diane Robinson. Rev Diane is the pastor of Unity of the Gardens, in Jupiter Florida and we have been good friends for thirty years. Diane had called to ask if I was noticing a difference in how my clients were. She felt that she was noticing a difference in her church.

Apparently, members didn’t have the time to volunteer as much and the fellowship, which has always made Diane’s churches wonderfully homey, seemed to be more difficult to achieve. She was savvy enough to hit on the reason herself, as she asked me if it was the difference between the Age of Pisces and the Age of Aquarius. We discussed this at great length.

I had already been meditating on ideas for my next blog, and as a result of Diane’s call, the following question popped into my mind. I was wondering how many of you, especially those of you who are over 40, have noticed that same difference in your lives.

The Age of Pisces was warm and fuzzy. Neighbors knew neighbors, brought casseroles over when people had trouble in their families. In small towns, most people knew each other and what was going with everyone too. Shows like ‘Father Knows Best’ and ‘Leave it to Beaver’ showcased an idealized family life that most people were encouraged aspire to. It proved to be appealing to our emotional needs at that time. Pisces is a water sign, so we were strongly ruled by emotion.

But things have changed. The Age of Aquarius is different. Its more logical Y2K was a good example, as it happened on the cusp between Pisces and Aquarius. The Pisces people were predicting the end of everything, including our computers’ ability to cope from changing to years starting in 2000. However, the logical air sign of Aquarius just figured it out, and so nothing catastrophic happened.

We are now moving farther into the Aquarian Age. I remember sitting in Astrology class back in the sixties and listening to the teacher speculate about what the New Age would be like. The suggestion was that somehow we would be ruled by technology, so much so that future wars would be fought with machines instead of guns. That sounded like science fiction, and so it was difficult to imagine.

Medicine would become more nuclear and diseases like cancer would eventually be wiped out. X rays would be a thing of the past. Technology would go right into our bodies with cameras. That also was a little difficult to imagine.

It all sounded promising and for the betterment of mankind, but people would feel isolated in their close relationships as their main push would be to save the world. Justice for all, equality, truth, global communication, but sometimes at the expense of communicating directly with a friend. In those days, we had no idea of things like text messages.

Many things are changing. We have been calling for change and it is here, but as the new comes in, something has to go out; and it is sometimes things that we have become attached to. Life is moving faster and people have difficulty keeping up with their own families … let alone friends and neighbors.

Change! As a species most of us don’t like it. We may dream of faraway places and we may visit them, but few of us take up residency there. We like what we know … it’s comfortable. But this change is a cosmic thing, and whether or not we like it, it is definitely happening.
We can shake our fist against the heavens, but it will still keep rolling along. We won’t be grounded until two thousand years from now, when the Age of Capricorn comes in and says OK enough of this. It’s all very well for existence in cyberspace, but someone has got to learn how to organize from the bottom up.

‘Chop wood and carry water, get close to the earth’. And two thousand years later, those who have grown up through the Age of Aquarius will be mourning the good old days when you could do everything on a computer.

I told my savvy friend that in her case, and with her knowledge of her church’s needs, she could figure out what an Aquarian Church would look like. We discussed what the needs of her congregation were now, which may not necessarily be what she would like them to be. I told her that people will still be in need of the church and the fellowship of church … it will just be different.

As many of you know, I taught a lot of psychic development classes. They often went from six to eight weeks long. Some even voted to extend those weeks. The last time I agreed to do a class, I could see that the old way was not going to work. It was difficult to get a group to commit for one night, let alone six to eight weeks of the same night and time.

We are in the midst of a massive change. There are those who believe that the next war will be a cyber war, and there are many who believe that we are already fighting it. It’s devastating to destroy lives and an infrastructure of a country, but certainly perhaps even more devastating to destroy a nation’s economy overnight … without shedding any blood at all

I’m old enough to remember sitting around the radio with my family and listening to Jack Benny and Fibber McGee and Molly. When television came along, people thought it was a fluke. They fearfully assumed that it put out rays and would never last. A lot of people feel the same way about computers, yet here they are and now in our phones and even on our wrists.

The key to surviving this change into the Age of Aquarius is mental and emotional flexibility. You don’t need to throw out all of those warm fuzzy memories of the good old days of Pisces. You can keep those memories of the past and still embrace the future, study it and learn how to use the traits of what is coming in to your benefit. As you surf the cosmic waves, who knows … maybe you will graduate from boogie board to surf board and ride the curl into the future. Can you tell I’m a Florida girl?

Each of you who are reading these words, chose to be born during this once in a two thousand year event. How brave, how adventurous and, okay, maybe a little impulsive. But you knew that you would have great opportunity for spiritual advancement. The good news is that whether you remember or not, each of you came with a set of tools and awareness. Everything that you will need to succeed brilliantly, maybe even ascend. So embrace this new age, or you can find a comfortable place to sit in the rocker and say, “Well … In my day we used to …”

If you would like further insight into what the new year will bring to you, or help in manifesting your intentions, I am always here to support you in your journey. You can contact me by phone at 828-252-7573 for a 30 or 60 minute session, or at if you prefer an email consultation.

You may also find my book, ‘Find the Force, Be the Light’ helpful in guiding you through these times of transition and harnessing the power of prayer to manifest changes in your life. 

This is available in both hardcover and e-book versions on Amazon Click Here to go straight to Amazon. The e-book is also available for purchase through Barnes and Noble, Apple iBooks and Kobo plus many other popular e-book outlets.

Please be sure to check out my newly updated website where my book is listed.